TIME has taught me everything. In fact it teaches everything.....we learn very valuable things from our valuable time. I wonder, whether others do it or not. But I, honestly and religiously follow my conscience which comes after a continuing evaluation of my good and bad experiences. I always prefer to listen to my heart other than my mind, because I know that mind is only a cellular organ which advices us (perhaps) the logical and most rational explanation of a phenomena. But Heart acts very contrast to Mind, but gives us pure idea based on emotion.
We learn from each and every instances of our life situations. And we apply that knowledge to modify our behaviour. But the most important thing one must learn, is to acknowledge people according to their thinking, behaviour and habits. This is very interesting that we know almost 10,000 (or even more) people by face, and among them we know 5,000 persons by name....or may be less than that, and almost 600-800 people we know properly and 400 among them we are in contact with. But there are only few who are our nearers and dearers.... And again there are very few(10-15) with whom we have spend a very valuable periods/times of our life. Who will be always there in our heart. Interesting and true.
I treasure everybody in my life with whom we have created a fountain of laughter....and i will be grateful to them who are there in my heart FOREVER !!!
I wish everybody a very happy and prosperous NEW YEAR !!! Love you all....... :-)
Monday, December 27, 2010
Saturday, May 29, 2010
our so-called western minded-ness***
Some things come very sudden. Sometimes its very hard to get what is going on, and when we realize, its already be too late. No one understand and no one pays attention. Everything in life is just an ongoing process. Whatever will happen, life must go on...
We are here for the fulfillment of certain things. And we are trying hard to get to that, in what way does not matter. Family members should appreciate this. Sometimes they became so lost that they forgot about their child's wish. They want their child to do what they want. No one pays attention to the child's wish, aim. We live in a very conservative society. No matter how much modern we think, no matter how much modern we behave...at the end, we have to do what we supposed to do (according to the stupid laws of society). For example: Marriage. This, i believe a very stupid institution in our society. Where you have to enter at your own risk (hahaha). And no one is in the exception except those few who dare to stay alone. I am not saying that Marriage is not good, but sometimes it spoil someone's life unknowingly (though its very rare). Cases are there of domestic violence, wife battering, dowry, rape etc etc, where the females do not have any other option other than "killing themselves" i.e. suicide. If not then they are killed by their so called in-laws. Now also there are cases of 'honour killings' where parents and siblings also dare to kill their own blood. Shocking !!!
The other day we are discussing the evil effects of marriage. Marriage is necessray, I agree but there are many negative points too. Marriage is a legally sactioned behaviour where one can legally rape her wife (mind it, legally), no matter what the wife goes through. I have heard many cases of 'marital rape' which come under domestic violence act. But who cares. Very few educated women also feared of getting it complained because of the fear of loosing their status. I am not talking about the rural folks, the story is very different in rural areas. Talking about the women who are educated like us also fears of doing that. And still many of like us are the victims of these violence. But as you are married you have to bear the patriarchal notions of our so-called western society. You have to behave accordingly after marriage, you have to wear certain type of clothes after marriage, even sometimes you have to change your food habits. GOD! And they all spare it only for one person, for one family...because she is a girl and she has to do so by the pre-sanctioned notions of society.
In this regard I prefer this "live-in-relationships". Here atleast you have your own choice of living and behaving and at the same time you will not be a victim of the various societal menace. There is also disadvantages of this, but many people today are going for this. And laws of our country is also favorable for this.
The question is how you maintain a relation. Whether in a marriage or in a relationship. Post-modern world is characterised by much of selfishness and money-mindedness. Apart from all these if two people are commited to be in a bond then the story is different. But if they are getting married only to fulfill their parent's wish then its sometimes dangerous. Parents can understand and we can make them understand...and they will understand because they love us. What matters is the 'only effort'. If you are ready for something then go for that, but do not force yourself to do something which you are not ready for. We speech a lot, but when it will come to implement, we also fail to do that and accept all the customs of society to do exactly the opposite we have ever preached. We read a lot of theories but never thought of applying those in our own life, because we do not want to be an example for others. This is our "so-called western minded-ness". We have become westernized only in our mind and speeches NOT in our deeds.
May God Bless All.
We are here for the fulfillment of certain things. And we are trying hard to get to that, in what way does not matter. Family members should appreciate this. Sometimes they became so lost that they forgot about their child's wish. They want their child to do what they want. No one pays attention to the child's wish, aim. We live in a very conservative society. No matter how much modern we think, no matter how much modern we behave...at the end, we have to do what we supposed to do (according to the stupid laws of society). For example: Marriage. This, i believe a very stupid institution in our society. Where you have to enter at your own risk (hahaha). And no one is in the exception except those few who dare to stay alone. I am not saying that Marriage is not good, but sometimes it spoil someone's life unknowingly (though its very rare). Cases are there of domestic violence, wife battering, dowry, rape etc etc, where the females do not have any other option other than "killing themselves" i.e. suicide. If not then they are killed by their so called in-laws. Now also there are cases of 'honour killings' where parents and siblings also dare to kill their own blood. Shocking !!!
The other day we are discussing the evil effects of marriage. Marriage is necessray, I agree but there are many negative points too. Marriage is a legally sactioned behaviour where one can legally rape her wife (mind it, legally), no matter what the wife goes through. I have heard many cases of 'marital rape' which come under domestic violence act. But who cares. Very few educated women also feared of getting it complained because of the fear of loosing their status. I am not talking about the rural folks, the story is very different in rural areas. Talking about the women who are educated like us also fears of doing that. And still many of like us are the victims of these violence. But as you are married you have to bear the patriarchal notions of our so-called western society. You have to behave accordingly after marriage, you have to wear certain type of clothes after marriage, even sometimes you have to change your food habits. GOD! And they all spare it only for one person, for one family...because she is a girl and she has to do so by the pre-sanctioned notions of society.
In this regard I prefer this "live-in-relationships". Here atleast you have your own choice of living and behaving and at the same time you will not be a victim of the various societal menace. There is also disadvantages of this, but many people today are going for this. And laws of our country is also favorable for this.
The question is how you maintain a relation. Whether in a marriage or in a relationship. Post-modern world is characterised by much of selfishness and money-mindedness. Apart from all these if two people are commited to be in a bond then the story is different. But if they are getting married only to fulfill their parent's wish then its sometimes dangerous. Parents can understand and we can make them understand...and they will understand because they love us. What matters is the 'only effort'. If you are ready for something then go for that, but do not force yourself to do something which you are not ready for. We speech a lot, but when it will come to implement, we also fail to do that and accept all the customs of society to do exactly the opposite we have ever preached. We read a lot of theories but never thought of applying those in our own life, because we do not want to be an example for others. This is our "so-called western minded-ness". We have become westernized only in our mind and speeches NOT in our deeds.
May God Bless All.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
way to live happily
Dreams--Desires--Accomplishment--Success
We are going forward in this direction. Everybody has a dream and everybody wants to fulfill it in any condition. But what we lack is 'proper arrangement' to reach to that. Here proper arrangement means pre-defined agenda. If we are going according to our plan than we can reach at our aim.
Life is full of surprises, bad and good. And sometimes life left us blank. The one thing that matters is how we use the situations. And one should be alert every time to take chance, to use a situation to his best. Because it is generally said that opportunities come once at the door step.
We are going forward in this direction. Everybody has a dream and everybody wants to fulfill it in any condition. But what we lack is 'proper arrangement' to reach to that. Here proper arrangement means pre-defined agenda. If we are going according to our plan than we can reach at our aim.
Life is full of surprises, bad and good. And sometimes life left us blank. The one thing that matters is how we use the situations. And one should be alert every time to take chance, to use a situation to his best. Because it is generally said that opportunities come once at the door step.
Friday, May 21, 2010
relationship-love-life
What does it mean by a relationship in this modern world ? What does it mean by actually loving someone? What does it represent to be madly in love?
We find many instances/cases in our day to day society. Some falling in love, some ditching each other, some using each other for some purposes etc etc. Love has become an necessity, where people NEED it, not FEEL it. I do not know whether they actually feel it or not. But I am sure they just want to be in a relationship to gratify some of their need, may be physical or emotional or sometimes just a show off. The goal is to have a boy/girl friend so that they can enjoy each other's company. And when it will come to marriage they all fear of their typical caste/class consciousness. They cannot even tell about their boy/girl friend to their parents because they love their parents so much that they just cannot think of doing such insane thing. But before falling in love, I am sure they have not thought about their parents at all. "I don't want to live without you", "I will die without you", "You are the best for me", "We are made for each other" are just the lines without any meaning for them. They use just for the sake of saying something. Or may be at the time of using they know the meaning but after sometime they can't be able to accumulate the meanings from these lines.
All these are fake. Love is fake, and so also a relationship. They know how to use each other for a certain period of time and after everything is over, they go forward for a loving wife/husband to live happily ever after. And these small love stories have become actually "love stories". They also say "if we will be there with each other for a lifetime then we can't make our love a love story", there is instances of stories like "Heer-Ranjha", "Anarkali", "Romeo-Juliet" etc etc....these fellows couldn't be together so we know them, if they would have been together than there would never be a love story. So to make their love alive they do this (sounds very very funny) !
Everything has become very mechanical. It takes time to accept such things in our society. I was wondering how could people do this to themselves. May be they are more practical. I wonder how could these people forget all these after a certain period of time. Then suddenly I realized our society is changing in a greater speed. We are accepting western values in every sphere of our life. We become so familiar with concepts like live-in-relationship, lesbianism, gay ism....so why not using each other as boy/girl friend. Every body wants to have a good life and everybody want to have a good family, they are always aware for that. If doing so is not making any harm to each other, so why can't they go for that. Sometimes its mutual. Before everything they just clarify that if they will not find appropriate for each other they will not marry. At they end they do so and for that they don't regret at all. And they should not. Every body has a right to live and has a right to express his/her feelings. So whats the need of portraying himself/herself as ideal in front of others.
Live for yourself. Because society don't pay for you, and should not be aware what others will think. Do whatever you think good. Because its your life. Live it fully, live happily.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Monday, May 10, 2010
love
LOVE is an attraction, an infatuation, a mental requirement, a longingness to be with somebody, and sometimes a necessity. Love is one of the purest form of affection.
Saturday, May 8, 2010
passion
I love many things. Dancing is one of them. I did learn Indian classical in my childhood, but as time passes i lost interest in that, so i did quite.
Now whenever I see a performance, I thrilled by the art. i regret a lot for my past. Still I have time, I can learn...but my studies never allow me to do that.
I quite like photography and I am quite fascinated by that art. I love to be that. I click many photos with no meanings attached, I tried to search for the meanings. I do like to learn more about this, but my present situation compelling me not to do that.
Apart from all these I have interest in many things....the list is long (normal human nature).....And I will be looking forward to fulfill in my near future.
God Bless Me and my friends.
Now whenever I see a performance, I thrilled by the art. i regret a lot for my past. Still I have time, I can learn...but my studies never allow me to do that.
I quite like photography and I am quite fascinated by that art. I love to be that. I click many photos with no meanings attached, I tried to search for the meanings. I do like to learn more about this, but my present situation compelling me not to do that.
Apart from all these I have interest in many things....the list is long (normal human nature).....And I will be looking forward to fulfill in my near future.
God Bless Me and my friends.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
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Amaltas bloom in jnu
This is the season of yellow beautiful Amaltas. The roads are full of yellow petals. I certainly love this. The way from old transit house to ad block is full of these trees which give us ultimate relaxation when we go through the path. I like to take a walk through this, admiring the beauty of nature.